“I would rather have the whole world against me than me against me.”
Dr. John Demartini
But what is self-esteem really? And how does it affect your life? Think of self-esteem as the sum of the views or opinions you have about yourself: your beliefs, self-worth, self-respect, self-confidence, and self-estimate—how much you like yourself. Note that the operational word here is “self.” The definition does not talk about your spouse, kids, parents, or neighbors. It’s how you feel about you.
How you feel about you is the most important thing in the world.
Unfortunately, many people base their self-worth on other people’s opinions of them. What are other people going to think? What does my friend think of me? What do my parents think of me? That’s an ineffective way to live because it’s impossible to feel better about yourself if you hinge your sense of self on people and circumstances outside of yourself.
What if you realized that the only opinion that mattered was yours? What if you found out that how you feel about yourself is 100% controllable? Wouldn’t that change where you put your time, energy, and focus?