“If you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you’d rarely disappoint yourself. Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don’t be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.”
Have you ever heard things like, “Look at what everyone else is doing, then do the opposite” or, “If you want what most people have, then do what they do”? If you do not want what most people have, then you have to do something different. Most people live from the normal, common, reasonable, appropriate, logical, and practical. It is normal to make $50,000 a year, have credit card debt, and not plan for retirement. It is common to justify, blame, and make excuses. It is normal to be overweight, to self-medicate, and to not like ourselves. It is reasonable to go after small goals, play it safe, and not risk. It is appropriate to let men lead, wait for a call back, and not rock the boat. It is practical to work for the same company for 20 years and to plan, research, and get ready to get ready to change careers the whole time.
So, how do you get out of that? Do the abnormal, uncommon, unreasonable, and outrageous. Separate yourself. Get noticed. It is abnormal to not participate in gossip, to take a stand for your values, and be a leader. It is uncommon to keep your agreements and be impeccable with your word. It is unreasonable to go on four dates in one night, spontaneously go to Europe, or to fly somewhere for dinner with a friend just for the night. It is inappropriate to buy a piece of jewelry without looking at the price tag. It is abnormal to acquire wealth, impact the community, and leave a legacy. Every one of these unreasonable actions will give huge boosts to your self-esteem.
Get committed to unreasonable, abnormal, and uncommon. Separate yourself from most people.