We live in a busy world full of deadlines, daycare drop-offs, schedules, happy hours, dates, networking meetings, family dinners, and after school activities. So often we have so many plates spinning at once we forget about the most important one of all; the plate holding our self-esteem.
Think about the most important person in your life. Now say that person’s name aloud. Did you say your own name or did you say the name of someone else? Perhaps you said a partner’s name or the name of your child. Maybe you believe the most important person in your life is a parent, relative or mentor. Truthfully, the most important person in your life is you! If your oxygen mask isn’t put on first and foremost when the cabin called life starts loosing pressure, you won’t be able to effectively take care of the people around you. Working and investing time, money and care in yourself is absolutely a sure fire way to start living the extraordinary life you’ve been dreaming of.
You might be thinking this all sounds great, but how on earth will you get that 10 relationship with yourself when so many plates in your life are spinning at once? We have compiled 5 specific choices, ways and investments you can make in yourself in order to achieve a 10 relationship with you!
What does it take to have a 10 relationship with you?
- Pick three to five self esteem boosting activities that you do every day
Self-esteem boosters are fast, easy and effective ways to boost your confidence. These are items you can check off your list every day and consider yourself a successful human being. Some examples might include, flossing, making your bed daily, paying your bills on time, driving a car worthy of you, creating intimacy with a partner or getting to the gym are just a few ways you can boost your self-esteem on a regular basis to eventually create a habit that fills your cup verses emptying it.
- Stop worrying about what people think about you
One of the biggest mistakes you can make regarding your self-esteem is basing your beliefs about you off your perception of what others think about you. The only opinion about you that matters is yours. The sooner you give up thinking about or worrying about what other people think or feel about you, the sooner you and your high self-esteem will be on your way to your extraordinary life.
- Stop living in the past and start living in the moment
In How to Be Your Biggest Fan author Renee Cermak expands on the idea that 80% of our positive self esteem comes directly from every day moments, not past trauma or drama (10%) nor does it have to do with the big moments in life like accolades, awards and game winning homeruns (10%). Truth be told, 80% of the moments where high esteem is available are being passed up. Be present; make choices NOW that will benefit your self-esteem (see #1 for self-esteem boosting ideas).
- Tap into your inner child
Do you remember what it was like to play freely as a child? The world was one giant opportunity to play, have fun, make friends and create endless magic from. If Jane didn’t want to play with you at lunch, you found another friend who wanted to participate in your game and it was the greatest afternoon, ever. Today if Jane says no to coffee or happy hour you might find yourself second guessing you as a person and your worthiness as a friend. Children have perfect self expression and aren’t afraid to show it. Children don’t think about who will or wont play with them, because truth be told, the game continues with or without their friends. Even better, children bring 100% of themselves to the party, every day. When we adopt the same mindset, high self-esteem isn’t just easy to come by, it is nourished and rewarded by the life you’ve always dreamed of.
- Actively participate in your life by setting goals
A sure fire way to achieve high self worth is to set goals worthy of you. Think about a part of your life you want to work on the most; physical, spiritual, relationship oriented or aimed toward personal wealth and liberty. Now set a goal and work with forward momentum to achieve that goal, every day. The key here is making daily choices toward that goal in order to have the perfect end result of a $10,000 in the bank or completing a 5k, having a great relationship with your husband or finally attending church services again with your family.
For more inspiration, ideas and application techniques purchase a copy of How to Be Your Biggest Fan by Renee Cermak and start living the life of your dreams NOW! How to Be Your Biggest Fan is available for purchase May 1st. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to start bring 100% of yourself to the party each and every day.